When you are about 20 weeks pregnant you can find out the gender of your baby. This is a milestone in the pregnancy as many expectant parents cannot handle the suspense of not knowing if it is a boy or a girl brewing in the belly.
From the moment I found out I was pregnant, one of my first thoughts was that I did not want to know the gender of the baby. I wanted to not only keep it a surprise from other people but I also wanted to keep it a surprise from ourselves. My overall philosophy around baby was to not over think the stage of pregnancy I was in and not to contemplate the stages of pregnancy that were to come. I needed to know the basics but I didn’t want to wind myself up with so much information that I became obsessive or over worried about any step in the process.
To that end, I didn’t know what knowing the gender would do for me. Yes, perhaps I could buy more gender specific clothing. Perhaps I could paint the baby’s room various shades of pink or blue. But something deep down inside of me just did not want to know. Rather, I preferred to be subject to what once was life’s biggest mystery.
My Leading Man on the other hand was keen to find out. The day of our 20 week appointment, where the Doctor does a full look at the anatomy and reveals the gender, he says to me “Just think about it.” Well I had already thought about it and had a strong feeling that I did not want to know. Luckily he went along with it.
Fortunately, the baby also cooperated. It was tumbling around in the belly during the entire appointment. So much so, we couldn’t even get a good picture of our bundle of joy. The Doctor said “good thing you don’t want to know the gender because I wouldn’t be able to tell you with how much this baby is moving.”
Good work baby! Now we will all find out together when you pop into this world.
The New Indian Mom 