Picking a Doctor to deliver your baby is an important decision. Not only will he or she (hopefully) be there for the actual delivery. This is someone who you will be meeting frequently throughout your pregnancy so having a certain level of comfort and confidence with your physician is very important. In my case, my insurance changed right around the time I found out I was pregnant. So I had to find a new doctor whether I wanted to or not. I used recommendations of others who recently delivered or those who were newly pregnant.
The first recommendation I received turned out to be the Doctor I chose. Why did I pick him, you ask? First, I loved his calm, all-knowing mannerism. He was very practical, pleasant and I knew would sooth my nerves no matter how the pregnancy went. I also loved that he personally delivered his patient’s babies (this I learned was not the case with many other providers where whatever doctor is on call will do that duty). My doctor also had a five-star rating on yelp and within a few minutes of meeting him I knew that was very well deserved.
Fortunately, my pregnancy has gone smoothly but as I approach delivery I am feeling in very good hands with my doctor. Many different scenarios in delivery can occur and I know whatever happens he will give me the right advice and guide the birth of my baby in the right direction.
Less than 12 weeks into my pregnancy my pants were snug and a little bump was beginning to form. It happens at different stages for every pregnant woman. Some women show early, like I did, and for some it takes longer. Regardless of when it happens be assured it will happen. You will realize that your regular clothes no longer fit and that my fellow mommas-to be- is a sad, sad, day.
But don’t despair, maternity fashion has come a LONG, LONG, way. So take being pregnant as an opportunity to flaunt your growing belly. It’s the one time in your life when a big tummy is socially acceptable so don’t be afraid to show it off. Unfortunately, showing off the bump and building a pregnancy wardrobe can be expensive but it doesn’t have to be. Here is what I did to manage the cost.
- Invest in denim – My initial splurge item was a pair of Citizen’s maternity jeans (I ordered mine from Amazon). I wore them throughout my pregnancy and felt stylish and chic every single time. Jeans are available at every price point from a range of stores but in my opinion if you invest in a good pair of jeans you will be happy through out your pregnancy.
- Get the basics (and get them at Target). Right after the maternity jeans, my next purchases were t-shirts and tank tops from the maternity section at Target. The t-shirts and tanks are soft and stretchy, perfect for your changing body. Oh, and they are very reasonably priced. I bought a white, black and grey tank and a black and white t-shirt. These five items paired with almost everything. Secret – I might keep wearing them after pregnancy they are that great.
- Leggings – My favorite pair of leggings are the Hue leggings at Nordstrom. They sell a maternity version but I just bought the regular version. While I saved my leggings for the third trimester they are wearable throughout as they are soft, comfy and give lots of room for your expanding belly.
- Maxi Dresses – Whomever invited the maxi dress had pregnant women in mind. They are comfortable and open which helps in the more uncomfortable stages of pregnancy. Remember, you don’t need a maternity maxi dress but you might need one a size larger than your normal size. Get a couple, you won’t regret it.
- Regular clothes in bigger sizes – I won’t be pregnant forever but I may be a bit larger than I want to be for more than just nine months. With that in mind I bought a few stylish pieces on sale at Nordstrom Rack one size bigger than my regular size and couldn’t be happier. I also bought a dress from the Women’s Plus section at Target and it was ADORABLE. These pieces will not only serve me during my pregnancy but should work in the months thereafter when I am trying to get back to my normal weight.
- Bra extenders – Most of the first and second trimester, I thought I needed new bras but then I discovered bra extenders at Target and my world changed. I just added these to my existing bras and voila they fit my growing chest perfectly. New nursing bras are needed before baby arrives but the advice I received was to wait until week 37 to purchase as your breasts will continue to grow until baby arrives and thereafter.
- And if you still need to splurge, like I did, find a maternity clothing boutique and indulge yourself. I found Mom’s The Word in Palo Alto, CA. They have adorable clothes and everything felt soft and fabulous on my skin. From there I purchased two body hugging maternity dresses and a couple of tops that will work during pregnancy and while I am breastfeeding. I also did a splurge on a maternity pencil skirt from Nordstrom that worked great when I needed business professional attire.
To sum it up some splurge items are not only okay but are very needed to make you feel fabulous (like denim and one or two body hugging style dresses) but focus on the basics (t-shirts, tanks, leggings) in wearable colors at reasonable prices. Try to buy regular clothes in a size larger so you can keep wearing them after pregnancy and don’t forget to go shopping in your own closet to find wearable pieces you can pair with your new tanks and tees.
Happy shopping mommas-to-be.
Yes, I am the New Indian Mom that wanted to keep myself from knowing too much or reading too much about pregnancy and raising children in hopes of keeping myself sane and not overly obsessed during my pregnancy. But with all the changes my body was experiences I knew pretty early on that I needed at least a baseline understanding of what was going to happen over the next nine months. So I hit the virtual book store (sadly it is hard to find a real book store these days) to find a few baby books to guide me through my pregnancy.
Here are some of my favorites:
The first book that I purchased upon finding out I was pregnant was The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. After the first few chapters, I found this book too medical and not relatable. A friend hearing my less than stellar assessment of my first pregnancy book purchase gave me her copy of What to Expect When You’re Expecting and I am so happy she did. This book was easy to read and had a good balance of medical jargon and everyday language to explain how the baby is growing and how I can expect my body to change week over week. It is written in an accessible way and supported my goal of not over-obsessing. I read only the part of the book that related to my week of pregnancy and never read ahead, until I hit my third trimester (yes, I am in my 3rd-tri already). Upon beginning the third trimester and realizing the finish line was near, I did read ahead in the book just to know what to expect if baby came early. I think I trained myself so well in the first and second trimesters that reading ahead did not freak me out or cause me to obsess, which was great (even when I read the dreaded labor and delivery chapter).
The second book that I highly recommend is The Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy. This was given as a gift from another dear friend and mom of two adorable girls. This is by far the best book in my collection. It leaves the medical mumbo jumbo to the doctors and talks more about the experience of being pregnant the way only your girlfriends’ can, at least, the ones who’ve been through the “exhilaration and exhaustion, the agony and ecstasy of pregnancy”. It’s funny, witty, and as real as it gets. If you are expecting and haven’t picked up this book yet – do so now! It is great and I savored each and every word as if it were written just for me. I think you might feel the same.
Besides the baby books, it’s good to keep some non-baby related books by your bedside too. You will need something to distract you from the pregnancy and sometimes a gripping novel or some trashy gossip magazines do the trick.
Are you expecting a baby soon or have you had one recently? What were your favorite books to read while pregnant?